Our Facebook group "The strategy of seduction of Naxos" posted a very interesting topic, the initial post reads:
SOY DE PUERTO RICO TENGO 18 YEARS, I AM MILITARY AND MY PARTNER ALSO. Q TO HAVE LITTLE OLD ENOUGH AND HAVE TRAVELED HE BEEN WITH WOMEN OF ANY KIND. SHE HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT HAD A LOT OF ATTRACTION, BUT EMOTIONS BEYOND ALL THAT began to feel a different affections. BY OUR WORK IS VERY DIFFICULT Q we meet. Q WHAT IS MORE LIKELY ONCE WE LET'S SEE A YEAR AND NOT FOR A LONG TIME. FOR YOUR BODY LANGUAGE IS Q She also feels something big. SAYS SHE LOVES ME ME AND ME GOING TO WAIT AND ALL THAT. I do not think much about it but that '. My questions are: Does this kind of relationship work? , CAN I EXPECT OR WILL BE CHEATING ME MYSELF?
My answer: Keep
a relationship involves managing a variety of items simultaneously with skill and dexterity. Within those items I can think of include: love, time, patience, creativity, passion, etc.. The list is long and everyone will know what elements to consider, But this is not the subject of my post. For many people that person that attracts them is close , however for others it is far away, perhaps in another city, even in another country.
Many people live what is known as a long-distance relationship, which may have been known for different reasons have distanced themselves, these reasons may be temporary or permanent, other couples do not even know each other personally and try to lighten loneliness in chat rooms or instant messaging.
Hard work a long distance relationship can be referred ASOI: try to survive the kilometers. People often have many sayings, jokes and phrases that express how difficult it is to maintain a similar relationship, some say that "love from afar, happy three" and so forth.
In this post I intend to reflect a bit on the issue of long-distance relationships and attempt to analyze under what circumstances are definitely feasible and what is best left for illusions.
In this issue of distance is that the truth can be absolute or generalizations . The distance can work in your favor, as well as against you, it all depends of how deep are the feelings for each other and the circumstances facilitate frequent communication and harmony . When it can not be seen frequently, intimacy and physical contact is necessary to devise other ways to maintain the relationship with interest and attraction .
Among the positive things a long distance relationship are anticipating, that is, that feeling of needing to see the person soon, which will increase days or moments before being before a call or mail. Also a long distance relationship is a space conducive to strengthening feelings and definitely know how far you are willing to go for the other person.
With a long distance relationship there are three options:
1. Staying true unconditionally : Keep the relationship no matter if they are 10 or 10,000 kilometers. It usually occurs when you think physical presence does not matter because the underlying feelings are strong as oak . This applies distance relationships for employment or education. In this category the long relationship distance is an obstacle, something which the two are fighting for something they already have decided: to continue as a couple. But in many cases it happens that one of the two begin to feel very alone and start looking what the market offers local , in these cases can present the second possibility,
2. Look see what happens, happens for couples who are together but are not committed, both follow the rule does not manifest out with other people until the need for exclusivity displayed, or given away when it comes couples who have little time for dating. And while it is true that some couples are consolidated faster than others, common sense should always prevail , and should not be made promises that are not genuine, common sense and a product of mutual affection and freedom. In this category the long-distance relationship is proof that tell if things are going to continue or not. If you are not able to promise anything, then come to my third category
3. See other people : It's smart finish a romance so far takes a couple of weeks or maybe a month if you already know to be distance. Do not get involved with anyone seriously if you know you are passing or soon depart. If you decide to date someone and keep your feet ground and not get carried away too. Long distance relationships do not work in short relationships.
To keep a long distance relationship should look at these elements :
1. Take time : Being in a different city means that new people be known and will be new things, does not imply that the other person to fall in the bottom of the list of priorities. For this it is best to use daily time to call or write e-mails and not to delay this ritual of correspondence and contact. The idea also is that as couples are counted day details, routines, friends, co-workers, etc., What this strategy seeks is that despite the distance the other person feel even part of life and affairs of the other.
2. Visits : We should make an effort to make frequent visits, but if less sporadic, or as often as possible. Even the visits should be carried out even when you least expect it (ie not only on holidays). One important thing at this point is to ensure that visits are reciprocal and that is not a same person traveling where the other, since that would only generate imbalance in the effort to maintain the relationship (unless there are economic problems or other reasons not to do so, for example, the bride or wife of a soldier who is traveling) . If as a couple can not devote time and effort to see the other eventually the relationship ends, no matter how much love there, because physical contact is necessary to move forward with a relationship.
3. Quality time : Where there may be visited and should ensure organize time together without delay and without distractions.
4. Be aware : You need to both show how much you miss (of course, if we really miss.) When talking on the phone and via mail should remember special moments they have spent together, or places she remember, this will help the emotional memory is intact and feeding attraction and emotional bond to the distance. Send photos, songs, remember that the distance the most important thing is to maintain the relationship on an emotional level. The big difference having a long distance relationship is that maintenance, you can not think of seduction classical and wonder where you get too close together to avoid demonstrations of love and affection in the relationship where there is miles away from the idea is to renovate all the possible ways that brought them together at a time and still keeps them as a couple and related feelings .
5. Relax : is imperative to maintain your sanity and your emotional balance is necessary you calm down and trust your partner, you should not get carried away by paranoid thoughts of facts that are in your mind and maybe you can not check. Trust is something that has certain indicators and the main of them is constant communication. not go crazy if she might not called in the time expected it, but if time passes and it disappears, you start to show too busy for you, get excuses, then should check what is happening and discuss it with her. But if you have had a busy week and the intensity has diminished then calm down, do not swallow what feel and understand their situation. Similarly, if your activities will then absorb Communicate to her that does not begin to put together stories in your head.
6. Agreements: The rules of the relationship must be established with clearly, everyone should know what is committed and what to expect of the other. Is it a relationship of trust or be released to other people? Will you be playing the "trial and error" or "see" or plan to grow it to find something really strong and stable? The effort should be in the hands of both, not one person, take into account costs that will detail as for calls, mailings, visits and so on, they must be aware that finance resist the distance and that resources have to be optimized, for example, you should not spend all your budget on long distance calls in a single week.
qualities or values \u200b\u200bto be taken to maintain a long distance relationship are: loyalty, trust, loyalty, respect and mutual love. And when I speak of love I speak of simple tastes, but that feeling of control, unaccountable and devoted to someone else.
signals that the relationship cools or is in danger are:
* She does not answer phone calls or emails, can not find it on msn.
* You're the one who always takes the initiative to call or write . Even so she spends days answer an email.
* She no longer interested in your life, stop asking questions about your routines and stop using kind words.
* not telling you strange and not show it.
* Start talking too much about another person, a colleague or a partner.
* Stop showing emotion when talking about their plans for visits, or long-term projects.
Finally have a well established reality principle: if the distance is extended for a long time, if the money runs out, and if no hopes for a close encounter, it would be best to consider the possibility of not being tied up, and perhaps see what is near at hand. The stories of style, "Love in the Time of Cholera" bring more suffering than good.
To start the hunt!
Until next time!
Recommended Websites:
- Verses and Poems to Fall In Love
- Wedding Decor
- marriages and weddings
0 comments:
Post a Comment